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Between Preachers: You Can Grow Through Interim Ministry — PUBLISHED!
ByJerrie Barber January 28, 2020January 28, 2020

When I started working with churches between preachers nearly thirteen years ago, several people, said, “You should write a book on interim ministry.” I started the blog Between Preachers in January 2016 which became the book released last week. Between Preachers is now available in both paperback and Kindle on Amazon. Order your copy: [su_button…

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Conflict | Elder-Preacher Relationships | Grief | Overseeing | Termination | Transition

Two Months — Two Books
ByJerrie Barber December 16, 2019December 16, 2019

I have projects I need to complete and places I plan to go during the next few weeks. I plan to return with more posts in the middle of February. Let me share with you two books I read last week. Rocky Times: a life of struggle, family & faith, by Ellen Claiborne. Ellen, Lucien,…

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I Love Criticism — but there’s a limit
ByJerrie Barber December 2, 2019December 9, 2019

I’ve not always liked criticism. There was a time when I avoided it. A Monday afternoon counseling session and much practice changed that. My new rule is: I love criticism! Criticism Rule for Leaders But, there are people who are difficult. There are people who are evil (wicked, malicious, mischievous (Romans 1:28-32). Must I continue…

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Conflict | Individual Responsibility | Influence | Leadership | Listening | Tools and Skills

Book of the Quarter: Deep Change, by Robert E. Quinn
ByJerrie Barber October 28, 2019October 26, 2019

Deep Change: discovering the leader within, by Robert E. Quinn, Copyright © 1996 by John Wiley & sons, Inc., New York, ISBN 0-7879-0244-6 Some links are affiliate links. We may get paid if you buy something or take action after clicking one of these. You can buy this book form Amazon: Deep Change, by Robert…

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Communication | Conflict | Delegation | Elder-Preacher Relationships | Gossip | Individual Responsibility | Leadership | Leadership Selection | Listening | Overseeing | Sheep | Shepherd-Shepherd Relationships

Two New Elders, Another Workshop 18 Months Later: NSO Workshop # 17
ByJerrie Barber September 16, 2019September 17, 2019

The first New Shepherds Orientation Workshop, November 1, 2, 2013 was initiated when Henry Wilhoit, an elder from Fairlane Church of Christ, Shelbyville, Tennessee called me with a request. “Jerrie, we’ve appointed five elders. Four of them have never served before. Do you think you could prepare something to help us understand the work of…

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Conflict | Individual Responsibility | Leadership | Shepherd-Shepherd Relationships

Would You Die Before You’d Ask for Help?
ByJerrie Barber August 5, 2019August 5, 2019

Why would a dying person not call for a doctor? I felt helpless. A man I’d never seen before came to talk with me one Monday afternoon. He asked if I’d help him with his marriage. I inquired about the problem. He said his wife had sued him for divorce. I asked when the divorce…

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How to Build and Maintain a Dysfunctional Group: “I know..but we need” (You can’t take enough vitamins to make poison good for you.)
ByJerrie Barber June 17, 2019June 18, 2019

How many times have you known someone in a congregation (elder, preacher, deacon, Bible teacher, man, woman) who is toxic in the group? They’re a pain in the church and will run off more people than you can invite. Some habits, personality traits they practice: Gossip Harsh attitude Lack of listening to others Always right…

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“A bishop then must be blameless”…how in the world do you do that?
ByJerrie Barber June 3, 2019June 4, 2019

My observation: a great weakness of many leaders (preachers, elders, parents, others): the hard rule they have that they won’t admit and apologize for mistakes, weaknesses, sins, shortcomings, offenses, and neglect for fear of losing respect and power. When that rule is followed, that person cannot be blameless, without fault, above reproach. Many times I’ve…

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To Fix This Church…
ByJerrie Barber April 1, 2019April 1, 2019

…a few good funerals What do people mean when they have death wishes for leaders? I’ve heard them countless times. A church isn’t growing as it should. Or, there may be sustained conflict in the church. Someone states, “What it’s gonna take to get this church straightened out is a few good funerals.” How’s that…

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Communication | Conflict | Individual Responsibility | Transition

Making In-Law Rules Before You Get In-Laws
ByJerrie Barber February 18, 2019February 19, 2019

supporting and coaching leaving father and mother I’ve found the best time to set rules and boundaries with in-laws is before you get in-laws and before you have any problems with in-laws. One of the last meetings I lead in pre-marital counseling is a session I call In-Law Stew. Gail and I invite the bride…

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