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Excited and Growing Church in Washington State
ByJerrie Barber May 16, 2017May 16, 2017

The sixth New Shepherds Orientation Workshop was with the Puyallup Church of Christ in Puyallup, Washington. We had the training sessions in the Holiday Inn Express in Seattle, Washington. I was touched and encouraged. Although two of the elders were involved in deaths close to them, they were present for most of the training. One…

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I Don’t Respond to Anonymous Letters…
ByJerrie Barber May 2, 2017October 7, 2020

When a new eldership was ordained at Berry’s Chapel November 19, 1995, none of them had ever served before. Every issue was new. They couldn’t ask, “How have you usually handled this?” to the older elders because there weren’t any. Read: Starting from Scratch On April 27 the following year, the elders, five members, and I received…

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New Shepherds Orientation Workshop, Smyrna, Tennessee
ByJerrie Barber April 4, 2017April 4, 2017

The fifth New Shepherds Orientation Workshop was conducted with the elders, ministers, and spouses of the Smyrna Church of Christ, Smyrna, Tennessee, February 23-25. We met at NHC in Murfreesboro Friday night and Saturday. We enjoyed a delicious meal together at The Chop House Saturday night after closing the workshop at 5:00. I stayed over…

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7 Ways to Deal with the Pain of Being a Shepherd
ByJerrie Barber February 7, 2017November 3, 2021

I’ve worked with many shepherds who start with a great vision of their work. “We want to get out of management, details of the business, caring for the building, controlling finances, and become shepherds. We want to know the sheep, lead them, help them, and encourage them.” Often within three months the shepherding goal is…

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If You Appoint a New Elder, I’ll Quit!
ByJerrie Barber January 17, 2017October 8, 2024

I’ve been resigning since 1988. I’d been in Dalton, Georgia, eleven years. I was looking for another place to preach. I talked with sixteen congregations. Eight of the sixteen churches had released their preachers. In each of the eight congregations where the preacher was moving without being self-motivated, they had appointed new elders within two…

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Conflict | Elder-Preacher Relationships | Grief | Leadership Selection | Termination | Transition

Releasing Your Preacher and Quickly Replacing Him
ByJerrie Barber January 3, 2017January 4, 2017

A few months ago, within a short time, I received two emails from good elder friends. One had, and the other was about to release his preacher and start the selection process. Each asked for men to contact for their next preacher. Here’s the email I sent: Questions: When will your preacher be informed of…

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Should Decisions Be by Minority or Majority?
ByJerrie Barber November 15, 2016April 27, 2022

We value unity. We believe in consensus. We have unanimity on every decision. We never make a decision unless everyone is in agreement.” The way it’s been presented to me: it’s more spiritual to have consensus, every person agreeing on every decision, than to go with the majority when one or two hold a contrary…

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Have you apologized, repented, confessed lately?
ByJerrie Barber October 18, 2016October 18, 2016

I don’t have a problem with them making a mistake. I can accept that. We all make mistakes. What hurts is when they make mistakes and fail to acknowledge them — and worse when they deny it was a problem and try to cover it up.” A bishop must be blameless, above reproach (1 Timothy…

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When a Preacher Is Older Than the Elders
ByJerrie Barber October 4, 2016October 3, 2016

Preacher: “I’m ten years older and have been preaching all my life, and he’s trying to tell me what to do.” Elder: “Our preacher doesn’t respect the elders. He’s older and thinks he should tell us how to lead the church.” I’ve experienced and observed this for several decades: a changing attitude and relationship of…

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Have You Been to an Eldership Funeral?
ByJerrie Barber September 20, 2016June 13, 2022

We were anticipating more leadership in the congregation. In a few weeks, we looked forward to completing the selection process, and appointing a new shepherd or two. I asked the elders if they were planning an eldership funeral. They hadn’t thought about that. I explained. It was my observation that often when new elders are…

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